5 Steps To Your Brighter, Happier Future


Author:Christopher Green

Are you longing to create a better life for yourself but in the dark about how to go about it? Here’s five empowering steps to light up the way to a brighter, happier, future.

1. The very first step is the step that most people just don’t want to do. Yet it is the single most important step of all. It’s about spending lots of time seriously thinking about what you want to do. I recommend at least thirty minutes but preferably an hour, each day to think about what you want to do with your time here on our beautiful planet. Your time here is finite. So set aside the time to think about how you want to spend it.

2. Make a decision to be your own guiding light. By this, I mean have the courage to follow what is in your heart. Seek out the path you truly want to follow and not a path others deem appropriate for you. Only you know what you truly want to do with your life. Be unique. Express yourself. Set free the creative spirit within you and be your own person. Sure this involves courage. Ronald Reagan puts it succinctly: “The future doesn’t belong to the faint-hearted, it belongs to the brave.” Gain strength from this.

3. Develop a thirst for knowledge. Make a firm choice here and now to do what it takes to achieve your ambitions. You will need to acquire knowledge and skills to follow your chosen course. Wise: The Internet is the greatest resource you could ever wish for to help you on your journey. Use it. Seek out people who share your interests. Use your local facilities such as libraries, associations and clubs. Local government organizations may be useful too. Be proactive and spread your net as far and as wide as you can.

4. It’s no good embarking on an endless quest for knowledge. Knowledge is only useful if it is applied to a useful purpose. In this instance, it should be applied on a daily basis to take you closer and closer to your goals. Avoid the temptation to be an armchair adventurer. Acquire knowledge and put it into action. Again, taking action requires courage. But unless you take action, your dreams for a better life will remain, well, I’m sure you can guess the rest!

5. Realize that fear is the biggest threat to your aspirations. Every time you try and change your life, fear will rise like an angry cobra to try and stop you. Its paralyzing venom comes in the form of excuses it will generate in your mind so you can justify inaction. Examples of this would be your age, your education, your looks, your sex, your color, your size, your religion, your family, your job and so on and so on. All of these are just excuses; they are a crutch for weakness and no such excuses are valid. Many people have overcome all of the above obstacles and many overcame much harder ones. Make a pact with me right now before I end this article: You won’t make lame excuses to placate your fears anymore. Today, you have kicked away the excuse crutch and you’re going to stand on your own two feet and get cracking on creating a brighter future!
The brighter future you long for lies within you. Today is the first day of your new future. Use the knowledge you’ve just gained and keep moving towards your new life. It’s up to you now.

Copyright  Christopher Green


The Joy Of Dating Again

Author:Jeanette Castelli

There isn’t a universal definition of dating, and specially of dating again. For most people, dating means a process leading up to a deep and permanent relationship. The problem with such definition is that we are placing the ultimate result of our dating in another person. We may be depending on someone else to create meaning within the dating process.
Define dating again as The Joy Of Dating Again. It is all about rediscovering ourselves, and then sharing with others our growth and realizations.
Right now, take a moment and think about what the joy of dating again means to you.
Here are some definitions as examples:

The joy of dating again is a reflection of your evolution from pain to joy.
The joy of dating again is a self-growth process, and we share ourselves through interacting with others.
The joy of again is a method of discovering your new sense of self and developing your instinct.
The joy of dating again is a trip into the unknown, expecting the known to happen.
Dating again is like peeling an onion, you are always discovering more about yourself, and others… and there’s always more coming.
The joy of dating again is learning how not to need anybody to make us happy; therefore, finding happiness and love.
The joy of dating again is stretching our comfort zone by trying things we have never tried before.
The joy of dating again is learning to give ourselves the gift of self-esteem.
The joy of dating again is the process of removing our masks until we are as authentic as we can be.
The joy of dating again is making peace with ourselves and living in harmony.
The joy of dating again is allowing ourselves to enjoy other people’s company.
The joy of dating again is expanding our beliefs of what is possible for our lives, including true love.

Answer the following questions:

What does dating mean to you?
What does joy mean to you?
What does the joy of dating again mean to you?

Answer the following questions:

When was the last date you had?
How was it?

Think of a great date you had.
What did you do? How did you feel?
Can you remember what were you thinking or feeling about yourself?

Think of the worst date you can remember.
What did you do? How did you feel?
Can you remember what were you thinking or feeling about yourself?

Complete the following sentences:

Having a date is __________________
Being dateless is __________________
Being asked on a date is __________________
Asking someone for a date is __________________
Being rejected by someone is __________________
Rejecting someone is __________________

Read your answers and see what they say about your present level of dating and your own expectations.

Excerpt From the book “The Joy Of Dating Again” by Jeanette Castelli.

4 Steps To Finding Joy In Your Relationships

Author:Brenda Shoshanna

Usually, we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this person is the right one, that we aren’t repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally, we will receive the love, support, companionship and admiration we have been waiting for. Each person has a shopping list of hopes and expectations, secret demands he/she is making of their partner and of relationship. When those are fulfilled and continue being fulfilled, they are then willing to say that they have found a good relationship and they are happy. Although this is kind of approach to relationships is normal and common, it usually brings disappointment. It fails to take into account some very crucial truths about our human nature, and what we really need to find on-going contentment and joy.
To begin, happiness is always fleeting. It comes and goes. It has to. Happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy. When we get what we want we feel cared for and understood. These moments are lovely – we cherish them in memory. The only wrong with this kind of happiness is when we depend upon things going our way in order to feel good about ourselves and our relationships.
Joy is different. It doesn’t come and go. It doesn’t depend upon outer circumstances. When things are difficult, our hopes are not fulfilled, it is still possible to feel joyful. Joy arises from within. It is an attitude of mind that can be developed and nurtured. It represents growth from being a child, wanting to be taken care of and admired, to an adult, able to take responsibility for their lives. Joy is not reactive. It is a positive decision we have made about ourselves and the world we live in. It is our unique response to life, which has been carefully developed.
In order to find joy in our lives and our relationships, certain things have to be developed and others to be relinquished. A famous saying describes this beautifully, it says, “When we are children we play with toys. When we grow up, we want the real thing.” The real thing is a joy. In a sense joy is a practice. It is based on actions taken, a way of being with oneself and others. There are steps we can practice daily. Joy is a decision we make each day. Here are some steps you can practice to find joy in your relationships.

1) Give Up Blaming The Other Person.
It is very easy to find things disappointing about the person you are in a relationship with. When we are upset, we attribute it to their behavior. This is putting our well being in another’s hands. It is one of the most significant ways we destroy our joy. It is also one of the most significant ways we undermine the other person. Realize that no one made you their judge and jury. Each person has the right to be who they are at this moment. If you are upset that is your response, it does not necessarily mean that something is wrong with them. Realize that you are creating your own unhappiness by blaming and disapproving of them. Give it up. Just observe their behavior. Get to know them. This does not mean you have to stay in the relationship but you have not been put on this earth to fix them. Say to yourself, they have a right to be who they are, and I have a right also. This is their life they are leading.
In fact, it is your own expectations which have disappointed you. When we do not put heavy expectations on the other but are willing to discover who they are, blame dissolves more easily.

2) Learn The Art Of True Giving
There is a huge difference between really giving to another, and giving so you can get something back in return. Giving to get something back is nothing more than manipulation, and quickly kills our joy. Joy is based on true giving. It is then impossible to be upset or sad. The giving itself is its own return. True giving means, giving with no strings attached. Giving something to the person that they need, not something that pleases you. Think of them, not yourself. Some fear to give, feeling that they will be drained or stripped bare. The opposite is true. The more we give, the more we have. We have a sense of fullness, out of which grows joy. There are many things that can be given besides physical objects – give time, attention, acknowledgment, let the other be right about something. Become sensitive to what a person is really needing, so they can receive it easily.
Practice giving freely. Do it in little steps at first. Let the car behind you pass you, let the person go first at the check out counter. Give someone a hand with their bags, open the door for someone at a building. Practice being there for another. The more you do it, the more your joy will grow.

3) Learn How To Really Listen
There is no better way of giving to another than by really listening to them. Most of the time we listen but do not hear what is being said. Listening involves getting out of your own thoughts and truly being there with the other. It means stopping the little voice inside that always comments, or thinks about what it is going to say next. It means becoming quiet and available. This is an enormous gift you are giving. In fact, to many, being really listened to feels like being loved. So, when you are listening to another, be aware of your own inner voice that wants to fight, to answer, to correct or comment. Allow that voice to subside. Place all your attention on the other. Give them the time and space to express all that is inside. You will be amazed at how the people around you will start opening up. You will also be amazed at how joyful your own life will become.

4)Stop Wanting To Change The Other Person
One of our biggest upsets is caused by our desire to fix or change the other person. One person feels they cannot love unless that person changes. The other feels hurt, inadequate and as though something is wrong with them. So often we hear the phrase, if you loved me enough you would change. But true love is the ability to love the person as they are, (including the parts of them that may not please you). A person has not been put on earth to please you, or make you happy. They have been put here to grow, develop and discover who they are. The best way to help them change is through acceptance of who they are at this moment.(This does not mean supporting destructive behavior, it means allowing the person to go through what they have to and make changes for themselves.) The odd thing is that the less we push and disapprove of another, the more they are able to change themselves.
Basically, it is necessary to realize that as we are, right now at this moment, we are lovable and acceptable. Now is the best time to give and receive acceptance. And, of course, the more love and acceptance we can offer, the more we experience joy.

Copyright Brenda Shoshanna

How To Stop Having Problems

Author: David Parton

If you are like me you have probably lost a lot of sleep over the many problems that arise in your life. Sometimes, the problem seems too huge. I become immobilized by the fear. That leads to procrastination and guilt for my inactivity and Presto! My stress level goes through the roof.
Just thinking of the word “problem” is enough to raise my blood pressure.
That is the true power of words! What you put in your mind has an immediate effect on your metabolism. The mind and body are not opposites; they have always been inseparable parts of one amazing organism: You!
So, problems get in the way of positive constructive action. Problems seem bigger than you. They can be ugly and mean and so distracting. You could pass up wonderful opportunities to enjoy yourself because you are too wrapped up in your troubles. You may be living a dark future that probably won’t happen. The present moments slip by unnoticed and that’s not a good thing!
It’s time to stop having problems. It’s time to slay the Boogeyman under the bed! How do I do that? Well, if you are willing to invest a little mental discipline, there is a very simple technique to follow.
Here it is:
Whenever you find yourself dwelling on some difficulty in your life, ask yourself: Is this a problem or a challenge? Make the right choice. Choose to view it as a challenge.
A challenge is like a contest or a test. It brings out your competitive nature, it inspires action and most importantly a challenge is a contest you can win!
A Problem is 800LB of emotional baggage.
A Challenge is an Opportunity to enrich your life.
Remember what I said about the mind/body connection? Which phrase makes you feel more uncomfortable: “serious money problems” or “financial challenges?”
Whenever you hit the next bump in the road you have a choice: Fill your self with needless stress and anxiety and welcome a new “problem” into your life, or you can say-“Yes! I accept the challenge. I accept the opportunity to improve myself, to strengthen my self-confidence, to grow from the experience and banish fears of unexpected change.”
Life is change. Change can be awkward sometimes. We like to stay with the familiar by nature. When we resist life’s changes we plant the seeds of problems. If we face our challenges we find fewer things to resist. We find ourselves in the “flow” of life and not caught up in a snag.
This one simple word swap has brought me a bucketful of peace of mind. I get stronger with every obstacle I surmount.
This might work for you, If you try. The question is: Are you up for a challenge?

“Eight Steps to Taking Control of Every Situation in Your Life!”

Author:Terry Rich Hartley, Ph.D.

Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we’re up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another – no choice in the matter.
What we can choose, though, is which kind of gladiator to be, victor or victim.

Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we’re up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another – no choice in the matter.
What we can choose, though, is which kind of gladiator to be, victor or victim.
Being a victim in this social arena translates into having bad relationships.
Most people are victims – victims of their own perceptions.
That’s because people don’t develop and listen to their own unique, authentic self. Rather they allow their mental spectators – those little tyrants rattling around in their heads – to tell them second by second how to fight their battles, what they can and cannot do. These tyrants applaud and they hiss, they encourage and they discourage.
These mental spectators are the memories of the judgments of real-life people. For example, it’s the memory of your aunt saying, “I hope you marry someone rich because you’re not going far on brains.” It’s the echo of your father growling, “You’ve got a back problem – no spine.”
And their influence over your relationships can’t be overestimated.
Millions of people accept the judgments of their mental spectators as the truth and, therefore, the mediocre results that come from believing those judgments.
With so many people living this way, the question becomes, is this the way I have to live? Fortunately, the answer is not unless you want to.
Once you identify your mental spectators – and your interactions with them – you can move beyond the victim and assume the role of victor.
What it takes are eight steps for getting command, eight steps you can apply to most any situation you want to be altered. You can positively influence your relationships, your employment options, any aspect of your life.
Let’s look at the steps.

1. Define What Ails You.
Ask, what’s my problem? Am I a jealous weasel, troubled that others have what I want? Am I ticked off most of the time? Am I sad and whiney? Had anxiety ridden? Moody? All of the above? Without this step, you’re doomed. It will take personal courage, but you won’t get results without identifying what ails you.

2. Discover the Effects.
Ask, how are my problems affecting my life? Am I a lousy parent, a friendless dork, a backstabber, a slut, a drunk, a junkie? Am I none of the above, but someone who is less than I could be? This step requires absolute self-honesty, but the truth will help set you free.

3. Seek the Source.
Ask, from where are my problems coming? Who are my real and my mental spectators? What do my mental spectators look like, say, and do? Exactly who or what is keeping me from taking command of my life? This could be one of the most incredible experiences of your life. You will look into the abyss and see who is looking back.

4. Identify Your Role.
Ask, how am I contributing to my problems? What is my responsibility in all this? Did I decide to be a garbage disposal? Do I beat myself to death trying to please others? Do I expect things of myself that are unfair? Do I treat myself as a friend or an enemy? Do I allow my mental spectators to drive me to distraction, depression, anger, anxiety? Recognizing your role in your own problems is a positive – but scary – step toward knowing yourself and gaining personal command.

5. State Your Desires.
Ask, what do I specifically want to do about my problems? Do I want to be a doormat, a slut, a drunk, a friendless geek? Or do I want to rule my mental spectators? Do I want to stand up to a spectator, real or imagined, who puts me down? Do I want to take command of my education, my bank account, my relationships? Until you can actually list your desires in the order of their importance, you will be a victim. However, once you do this, you are on your way to being a victor.

6. Seek Options.
Ask, what are my options, and in what order should I place them? What is the first option I should concentrate on? The second one? The third? If you have a soul-sucking hangover most mornings, you might opt to give up your booze buddies for some real friends. Secondly, take the money you normally spend at bars and deposit it in a college fund for yourself or your kids. If, instead, you’re a workaholic and you want to spend more time with your kids, then DO IT. Very few people on their deathbed have said, “If I could live life all over again, I’d spend more of it at work and less with people I love.” Choices are involved here, but by weighing options and alternatives, and then making personal choices, you are taking command. Do this and you’ll begin to gain real power.

7. Learn Winning Techniques.
Ask, how do I rule my real and my mental spectators? Must I collapse in a heap when they point thumbs down? How can I learn to take charge at every level and get a grip on my life? There is no “magic” involved, but you might feel as if there is. Unlike a vanquished gladiator falling at the whim of spectators, you decide your own course.

8. Master Your Relationships.
Ask, what more can I do to master my relationships by strengthening myself and my perceptions? How do I take command right now in developing my own identification and self-worth? Congratulations! You’re working on the one person in the entire world you can work on – YOU! And any improvements in yourself can’t help but enrich your relationships with other people and the world around you.
Although this is only a brief overview of each of the eight steps for jump-starting your relationships and taking control of your life, you’d be amazed at how significant the effects of a few minor adjustments in perception can be.

21 Days to A Positive-Attitude Habit

Author:Patricia Wagner

This may come as a surprise… but your attitude is more important than your aptitude for determining your success in life!
Just how critical is the attitude to achievement? Well, take a look at one of the greatest inventors of the last two hundred years – Thomas Edison. Every time you turn on a light switch, you experience the result of his persistence in the face of continuous failure.
Edison tried 10,000 times to get his light bulb invention to work, but failed each time. However, he had this to say about his lack of success. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
You can learn to have this kind of outlook on life, but it needs to be purposefully installed into your daily living.
You probably know it takes about 21 days to break a habit by replacing it with a new one. If you are plagued with persistent negative thoughts toward life, you can replace this mindset with a new positive-attitude habit!
Here is a 21-day five-step program to change a negative attitude to a positive one.

1. Take charge of what you’re thinking.
This is a moment-by-moment decision that doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a habit that will take some time to build. How can you do this? Choose to think uplifting thoughts instead of discouraging ones.
You get to decide what you think, which in turn determines how you feel. Become aware of this and dwell on positive ideas throughout the day.
At first, you may have to force yourself to find something positive. Consider keeping a journal and write down at least one good thing in your life each day for three weeks. Then think about these blessings instead of discouraging thoughts.

2. Read inspirational material.
During this 21-day training period, fill your mind with good thoughts. The best book of all to read is that priceless diamond of world literature – the Bible. You’ll never know what wonderful results from reading it are around the corner until you open its covers!

3. Focus on others.
For the next 21 days make an extra effort to help other people. Concentrating on assisting others will help you more than you realize. If you succeed in becoming wealthy but are poor with respect to your relationships, you will not be truly prosperous at all!
So make a special effort of focusing on others during your 21 days of building your new positive-attitude habit. This will free you up to allow the butterfly of happiness to land on your shoulder when you least expect it.

4. Take care of your health needs.
It’s hard to maintain a positive mindset if you’ve neglected your physical needs. So during the 21 days of your attitude retraining make an extra effort to eat nutritiously balanced meals.
Not getting enough sleep will also be a tremendous hindrance, so make sure you’re getting adequate rest. And don’t forget to get enough exercise. When you feel down, try to take a brisk 30-minute walk. You’ll feel revived!

5. Learn contentment
For the next 21 days focus on what you have and not on what you don’t have. Live in the present and enjoy your blessings.
Try to forget acquiring stuff for the purpose of keeping up with others. That only leads to more anxiety. Be thankful for what you do have instead.
When going through difficult experiences – remember that adversity can be a blessing in disguise. You might learn some important lessons during those tough times – like Thomas Edison did. (I know I have.)
These lessons can turn into credentials that will enable you to help others when they’re going through tough times.
So don’t let negativity ruin your present and future. Instead, build a new habit of having a positive attitude. It will take about 21 days to start seeing consistent changes in the way you think, but it will be worth it!
Now choose the starting date for your attitude-renewal adventure and go for it!
How about today?
(c) Copyright  by Patricia Wagner

“Is Your Career Your Calling or Just a 9 to 5?”


Do you remember your parents asking you what you want to be when you grow up? By the time I was in the 9th grade, my mother started asking me that same question until I graduated from high school. At that time I wasn’t 100% sure what career path I would take, but I had several ideas.
Your calling is that passion that you have deep inside – the career that defines your purpose in life. Someone once told me if you find a job that you love you’ll never have to work a day in your life. Some of us work in careers for so long that we are numb on the inside and outside. We go from appointment to appointment and our days are so mundane. We hardly get any enjoyment out of what we do because it is just another 9 to 5. Have you recently said, ‘I could do this job with my eyes closed?’
People who choose a career, instead of their calling, wake up disappointed that they have to go to work. They hate facing another day. If you find your calling and pursue it, life will become an adventure and not just another 9 to 5.
Ponder over these statements:

Your passion directs you to your calling.
A calling is who you are.
A career is what you do.
A calling is 24-7-365.
A career is a 9 to 5.
A calling is what you would do for free.
A career is what they have to pay you to do.
A calling cannot be measured with money or fame.

In conclusion, take a few moments to ponder over what is going on in your life today and figure out if it compensates towards your calling. Listen to your mind, body, and soul. Don’t worry about what others will think or even if they will agree to whatever calling you move towards. Live your life as if tomorrow is your last day on Earth. Enjoy today because tomorrow isn’t definite.

Bring Love Into Your Life

So many people are complaining about the lack of love in their life. They act as if some stranger decided one day to take away the love out of their lives. They hold on to lovers already gone eternity, or they dream about a partner coming into their lives to give them everything they are not able to give themselves, swinging between hope and desperation. They look for love outside themselves and believe one day a charming prince on a white horse will knock at the door and take them away to live forever happy in a castle far away from reality.

Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison.

Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?

The bad news is this will not happen.
The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.

Let’s go further.

Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors: the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all: the more love there is.

Visualise this building of life in your minds. In the cellar, you will find people like rapers, thieves, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the ground floor, you will find a lot of people. In fact, most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog on the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.

Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life is easy, life is light. The cellar, ground floor, and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self-esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life. This will never give freedom or love.

So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?

First, you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?

Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is it the ground floor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be on the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life on the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.

What to do? You decided where you want to be. What will you do now? Should you wait until someone knocks on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!

So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash your inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called the Internet which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.

So firstly, you to decide where you want to be. Then you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask for help, of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.

Once you get on the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will find naturally people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.

Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go to their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!

Move yourself up.

If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this: don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for themselves. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me: life is wonderful!

Difference Between Pleasure and Happiness

People often mistake pleasure for happiness and vice versa. However, it is important to note that there is a clear distinction between happiness and pleasure. This is because; happiness is a state of inner feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction; that gratification cannot be met. This means that, despite the fact that happiness is influenced by circumstances sometimes, it is not reliant on it. Rather, it gives the wellbeing of an individual the confidence and the wisdom to deal with these conditions.

In most cases, we have equated pleasure to happiness in the sense that we cannot imagine
a life of happiness without a succession of pleasurable instances. This does not mean that we
deprive ourselves of the things that we find pleasure in and hence enjoy doing them. This could be swimming, traveling among others.

However, it is important to bear in mind that unlike happiness, pleasure is dependent on circumstances. This means that pleasure is not stable naturally. That means that it stirs up a sensation that soon assumes a neutral and unpleasant view. Pleasure is, therefore, a feeling that is often stimulated by the external surrounding and factors while happiness is internal.

Hence, pleasure can be defined as a sensational feeling that potentially cause us to do something that could ultimately be harmful to us. For instance, pleasure can cause one to eat a whole bag of chips even when they know that it is detrimental to their health; or buying a new expensive car even when the current car is in perfect condition. This means that our sensations of pleasure are inextricable with the thing we want to do. The problem with this is that when the source of pleasure is gone, then the person also loses their happiness. However, in the case of happiness, whether the source of pleasure is present or not, an individual is content and happy.

Therefore, putting all our focus on happiness rather than pleasure proves to be more reliable and sustainable.